It's been a few weeks since I wrote last - apologies are due. Mark (my husband) had left for Germany for 11 days for work so I wasn't exactly in the mood to spend my small amount of free time writing. Don't get me wrong, I love writing, but lately I've felt a bit unsure. Not of what I believe, not of my desire to share it... I guess so many of the things I want to write about are big, take lots of explaining & could go on & on & on & on. So, it's a little overwhelming to try to sit here & write a fully comprehensible little post. I've always wanted to write books, but again, a little overwhelmed with the idea... I don't have a specific book in mind so that's a ways off in the future (well, I actually have a re-write in mind that I plan on starting soon, but that's a different topic).
I decided I would write just a teensy thought & conversation I had. That's easier... hopefully.
I was driving from Tigard to McMinnville a couple weeks ago & the driver to my right all of a sudden realized (with only about 30 ft left) that his lane was a right turn only lane. I let him over & began thinking about grace. I noticed he had an out of state license plate & an out of state sticker... I decided those qualified him to receive my grace. Then I began thinking (dangerous) & talking about this with my good friend Dar & my husband. I was able to give grace at that moment because I assumed the best of this mysterious driver. But, this didn't seem like a fabulous reason to always give grace... helpful maybe, but that can't be all there is to it. I mean, what if he was just a jerk who wanted to try and get ahead? Would I still have given him grace? And surely God knows how wretched we all are & how selfish all our thoughts really are but He still gives us grace...
That is when I realized 2 things: 1 - God is gracious in such a different way than we are & 2 - I have a long way to go in becoming a truly gracious person.
I don't want to go on too long because this could get complicated & crazy, but I do want to share just a couple thoughts & questions. Why is it so hard to give others grace? To be a gracious person? The casual definition of grace being - giving someone something good which they don't deserve. The driver didn't deserve for me to have a good attitude towards him... but then I think, what would have been so great about keeping my bad attitude towards him? He would have never known!! I would have been angry (sort of "justifiably") but had nothing to do about it or no actions to carry out that were good or beneficial. So why are we so miserably ungracious towards others?
Obviously, we have a great inability to be like God who is incredibly gracious & compassionate. The whole point of the bible expresses his Mercy & Grace in giving us redemption & taking on the wrath we deserve. But seriously, if being gracious to another person has a positive affect on them & ourselves, why don't we make more effort? I think the root of this is the same root for most of our sin - selfishness. We want what we think we deserve - to be treated fairly (who says the world works like that?), to receive the benefits of our hard work (which somehow we found ourselves with the miraculous ability to do), to have love & be loved (umm, not sure we deserve this just for being born), to not be wronged... I'm sure the list could go on.
Anyway, this is just rambling thoughts on our, especially my, limited ability to be gracious. It's been good for me to consider that even my attempts at being gracious are usually either forced because of mental reasoning (which is still better than not being gracious) or miraculous gifts from God - Him changing my heart & desires. It has caused me to see that to truly become more like Him, I cannot just try harder or reason with myself... if it's to be a natural outpouring it needs to come from God making me different than I am today. How? We should start by just asking (daily, hourly, minutely?) & being willing to yield to our own desires. It really stinks to constantly be putting my own desires & to-do's on the back burner... but that's only because I don't realize how important God's call to show His love is. Showing mercy, grace & love to others will always be a higher calling than getting done what I want to get done. This is a hard lesson, but I firmly believe it is also an eternally rewarding one.
I decided I would write just a teensy thought & conversation I had. That's easier... hopefully.
I was driving from Tigard to McMinnville a couple weeks ago & the driver to my right all of a sudden realized (with only about 30 ft left) that his lane was a right turn only lane. I let him over & began thinking about grace. I noticed he had an out of state license plate & an out of state sticker... I decided those qualified him to receive my grace. Then I began thinking (dangerous) & talking about this with my good friend Dar & my husband. I was able to give grace at that moment because I assumed the best of this mysterious driver. But, this didn't seem like a fabulous reason to always give grace... helpful maybe, but that can't be all there is to it. I mean, what if he was just a jerk who wanted to try and get ahead? Would I still have given him grace? And surely God knows how wretched we all are & how selfish all our thoughts really are but He still gives us grace...
That is when I realized 2 things: 1 - God is gracious in such a different way than we are & 2 - I have a long way to go in becoming a truly gracious person.
I don't want to go on too long because this could get complicated & crazy, but I do want to share just a couple thoughts & questions. Why is it so hard to give others grace? To be a gracious person? The casual definition of grace being - giving someone something good which they don't deserve. The driver didn't deserve for me to have a good attitude towards him... but then I think, what would have been so great about keeping my bad attitude towards him? He would have never known!! I would have been angry (sort of "justifiably") but had nothing to do about it or no actions to carry out that were good or beneficial. So why are we so miserably ungracious towards others?
Obviously, we have a great inability to be like God who is incredibly gracious & compassionate. The whole point of the bible expresses his Mercy & Grace in giving us redemption & taking on the wrath we deserve. But seriously, if being gracious to another person has a positive affect on them & ourselves, why don't we make more effort? I think the root of this is the same root for most of our sin - selfishness. We want what we think we deserve - to be treated fairly (who says the world works like that?), to receive the benefits of our hard work (which somehow we found ourselves with the miraculous ability to do), to have love & be loved (umm, not sure we deserve this just for being born), to not be wronged... I'm sure the list could go on.
Anyway, this is just rambling thoughts on our, especially my, limited ability to be gracious. It's been good for me to consider that even my attempts at being gracious are usually either forced because of mental reasoning (which is still better than not being gracious) or miraculous gifts from God - Him changing my heart & desires. It has caused me to see that to truly become more like Him, I cannot just try harder or reason with myself... if it's to be a natural outpouring it needs to come from God making me different than I am today. How? We should start by just asking (daily, hourly, minutely?) & being willing to yield to our own desires. It really stinks to constantly be putting my own desires & to-do's on the back burner... but that's only because I don't realize how important God's call to show His love is. Showing mercy, grace & love to others will always be a higher calling than getting done what I want to get done. This is a hard lesson, but I firmly believe it is also an eternally rewarding one.